On 10/11/2021 at 11:49 AM, SPIDER-MAN said:

My Dad passed away 4 weeks ago yesterday from cancer. It's been very hard, but harder than I thought it would be. Does anyone know what I am going through? Did it get better eventually.

 

It really does. Just takes time. My dad died when I was 22. Don’t really get too upset anymore 20 years on, but my mom died last week and that one is really sucking. It’s better every day, but I’m sure as I go through life events or kids life events it will be tough with no parents. 

On 10/11/2021 at 11:49 AM, SPIDER-MAN said:

My Dad passed away 4 weeks ago yesterday from cancer. It's been very hard, but harder than I thought it would be. Does anyone know what I am going through? Did it get better eventually.

 

I wouldn't say it gets better, it just gets easier to live with. Sorry for your loss. 

Welp that sucks, sorry OP.

4 weeks is still a very very fresh wound to heal. I would think it takes years and years. So give it time. 

 

I offer my condolences in regard to your loss, my friend.

 

I lost my dear mother in 1990 - she had suffered two heat attacks in two days, then died of cardiac arrest three days after the second heart attack; she was 71 years of age, and I was devastated.

Three years later, my father passed away after a long, drawn out battle with cancer and malnutrition; he was 73 years of age; I felt bad, but not as bad as when my mother passed away.

 

The loss does hurt from time to time, yet you will still think of your family from time to time.  I know I do.

On 10/11/2021 at 11:49 AM, SPIDER-MAN said:

My Dad passed away 4 weeks ago yesterday from cancer. It's been very hard, but harder than I thought it would be. Does anyone know what I am going through? Did it get better eventually.

 

Sorry for your loss but it does get better, slowly. I lost my mom on February 9th and my dad on February 28th of this year. It's rough for sure and there are times you forget and think about stopping by or calling until you realize you can't. This will certainly be the worst holiday season I've experienced. I just try to think about the good times we had together and be thankful for the time I had with them. 

Thanks for continuing to post here. It helps. Thanksgiving was good, not great. Not as bad as we thought though. I hope everyone here had a Happy Thanksgiving.

On 10/28/2021 at 8:45 AM, homerpat said:

It really does. Just takes time. My dad died when I was 22. Don’t really get too upset anymore 20 years on, but my mom died last week and that one is really sucking. It’s better every day, but I’m sure as I go through life events or kids life events it will be tough with no parents. 

sorry for your loss. 

12 hours ago, mr_hunt said:

sorry for your loss. 

Thanks. She was sick so we had time to prepare. It’s better every day. 

On 11/26/2021 at 11:19 AM, SPIDER-MAN said:

Thanks for continuing to post here. It helps. Thanksgiving was good, not great. Not as bad as we thought though. I hope everyone here had a Happy Thanksgiving.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss as well.  Around holiday time makes it especially tough.

My dad died of a sudden heart attack a couple days before Memorial Day.  My grandfather and uncle both died (cancer, luekemia) close to Memorial Day as well so that's an annual reminder.  Father's Day being in June made it especially hard the first year, the grieving was still new losing my Dad.  

People grieve differently, it does get better over time.  Some people still grieve and are very sad for months or years, others process and deal with their grief and are able to move on.  You always have memories.  It's been 15 years since my Dad died.  After the first year or so, it wasn't about the milestone days like his birthday, the date he died or Father's Day anymore.  I do remember him and family will share Facebook posts.  But for me I miss him in certain moments like wishing he were around for advice, or when I watch a movie or hear a song or something that was one of his favorites it reminds me of him.  Also my son was born later so he never got to meet and know his grandpa.  

It's important to go through the grieving process, have someone to talk to and express your feelings.  Keeping them bottled up or distracting yourself isn't healthy.  But it does get better over time.  You're in my prayers and hopefully the support in this topic helps you a little with encouragement.