March 7, 20232 yr A close friend of mine passed away 3 weeks ago. She was actually one of my wife’s best friends. We knew she’d been sick and in liver failure, but didn’t even know she was in the hospital at the end. I went over to visit with her wife, who is also one of my best friends, last night. She shared with me a lot of stuff that’s been going on for years that they never let anyone know about. Our friend had, unknown to us, been struggling with alcoholism for a long time and it cost her her life. Now her widow is left wondering if she could or should have done something different and she figured out how to navigate life as a single parent of 2 amazing kids. This country needs a serious reset on how the conversation around mental health and support is framed.
March 8, 20232 yr 1 hour ago, OCEaglefan said: Micky Dolenz from The Monkees is 78 today. Looks like he’s well Good for him! btw, do I see a big floppy portion of clam or is it my imagination?
March 9, 20232 yr 5 hours ago, OCEaglefan said: Micky Dolenz from The Monkees is 78 today. Looks like he’s well Is he tho?
March 9, 20232 yr Just now, Steve 17 said: Kudos to the photographer that waited until the fan was covering her mug in the first picture.
March 9, 20232 yr 13 hours ago, OCEaglefan said: Upon inspection of believe it is her undergarments made you look!
March 9, 20232 yr I don't normally post stuff like this but I feel like typing it out. One of my wife's best friends killed himself last night. They had been friends for 20+ years - used to party together as kids. Of course over the years I became friends with him too. He had just gotten married less than 6 months ago - that day was the happiest I had ever seen him. I just saw him this past Saturday morning - he is running for county commissioner and asked if he could put a sign in our yard. We chatted briefly and he moved on, but everything seemed perfectly normal. It just doesn't make any sense. No one had any idea he was having trouble. His wife said they ate dinner, everything was good. She went to bed, and he shot himself in their living room. No note, nothing. Just wish he knew how loved he was - no one ever had a bad word to say about him. Just goes to show, you never know what demons a person is battling. Sorry for such a downer of a post.
March 9, 20232 yr 3 minutes ago, mikemack8 said: I don't normally post stuff like this but I feel like typing it out. One of my wife's best friends killed himself last night. They had been friends for 20+ years - used to party together as kids. Of course over the years I became friends with him too. He had just gotten married less than 6 months ago - that day was the happiest I had ever seen him. I just saw him this past Saturday morning - he is running for county commissioner and asked if he could put a sign in our yard. We chatted briefly and he moved on, but everything seemed perfectly normal. It just doesn't make any sense. No one had any idea he was having trouble. His wife said they ate dinner, everything was good. She went to bed, and he shot himself in their living room. No note, nothing. Just wish he knew how loved he was - no one ever had a bad word to say about him. Just goes to show, you never know what demons a person is battling. Sorry for such a downer of a post. damn...sorry, man. that's rough. you're right though...there's no way to know what's going on in someone's mind.
March 9, 20232 yr Just now, mr_hunt said: damn...sorry, man. that's rough. you're right though...there's no way to know what's going on in someone's mind. A buddy of mine is a local paramedic - he was either on scene or knew the details of everything. We were talking about it and he said that he couldn't tell you how many times when something like this happens, it's almost always someone you would have never guessed would do that. They don't talk about it, or threaten to do it, they just do it. It's scary as hell to think about, especially when it hits so close to home.
March 9, 20232 yr 2 hours ago, mikemack8 said: I don't normally post stuff like this but I feel like typing it out. One of my wife's best friends killed himself last night. They had been friends for 20+ years - used to party together as kids. Of course over the years I became friends with him too. He had just gotten married less than 6 months ago - that day was the happiest I had ever seen him. I just saw him this past Saturday morning - he is running for county commissioner and asked if he could put a sign in our yard. We chatted briefly and he moved on, but everything seemed perfectly normal. It just doesn't make any sense. No one had any idea he was having trouble. His wife said they ate dinner, everything was good. She went to bed, and he shot himself in their living room. No note, nothing. Just wish he knew how loved he was - no one ever had a bad word to say about him. Just goes to show, you never know what demons a person is battling. Sorry for such a downer of a post. Don't want to get into personal experiences but I just want to say do what you can to be there for your wife. She is going to, for a long time, question what she could have done to be there for him and think "Maybe if I just did this and this.... it could have been prevented". All logic points to that not being the case and there was nothing that could have been done, but that's where one's head goes.
March 9, 20232 yr 6 minutes ago, paco said: Don't want to get into personal experiences but I just want to say do what you can to be there for your wife. She is going to, for a long time, question what she could have done to be there for him and think "Maybe if I just did this and this.... it could have been prevented". All logic points to that not being the case and there was nothing that could have been done, but that's where one's head goes. Yeah - she's already said she feels like a bad friend. As far as anyone knows this was a complete shock to everyone - his wife, friends of his that were much closer to him than my wife was. The two of them (him and my wife) obviously weren't as close as they used to be, but still tried to stay in touch as much as possible. Life gets in the way sometimes. Just a crap situation all around. I can't concentrate on anything today.
March 9, 20232 yr 5 minutes ago, mikemack8 said: Yeah - she's already said she feels like a bad friend. As far as anyone knows this was a complete shock to everyone - his wife, friends of his that were much closer to him than my wife was. The two of them (him and my wife) obviously weren't as close as they used to be, but still tried to stay in touch as much as possible. Life gets in the way sometimes. Just a crap situation all around. I can't concentrate on anything today. It's going to take time for her. What I highlighted in red I can relate to. Because they drifted apart she will wonder if she kept in touch more, made more of an effort to be there, etc if that would have changed things. In my case it was a conscience decision so even a decade later the "what if...." thoughts still pop in my head from time to time, so I do hope that because it was a natural progression of their friendship winding down that it doesn't last nearly as long.
March 10, 20232 yr On 3/9/2023 at 9:24 AM, mikemack8 said: I don't normally post stuff like this but I feel like typing it out. One of my wife's best friends killed himself last night. They had been friends for 20+ years - used to party together as kids. Of course over the years I became friends with him too. He had just gotten married less than 6 months ago - that day was the happiest I had ever seen him. I just saw him this past Saturday morning - he is running for county commissioner and asked if he could put a sign in our yard. We chatted briefly and he moved on, but everything seemed perfectly normal. It just doesn't make any sense. No one had any idea he was having trouble. His wife said they ate dinner, everything was good. She went to bed, and he shot himself in their living room. No note, nothing. Just wish he knew how loved he was - no one ever had a bad word to say about him. Just goes to show, you never know what demons a person is battling. Sorry for such a downer of a post. Damn that’s tough, man. Sorry to hear about your loss. God speed.
March 10, 20232 yr On 3/9/2023 at 9:24 AM, mikemack8 said: I don't normally post stuff like this but I feel like typing it out. One of my wife's best friends killed himself last night. They had been friends for 20+ years - used to party together as kids. Of course over the years I became friends with him too. He had just gotten married less than 6 months ago - that day was the happiest I had ever seen him. I just saw him this past Saturday morning - he is running for county commissioner and asked if he could put a sign in our yard. We chatted briefly and he moved on, but everything seemed perfectly normal. It just doesn't make any sense. No one had any idea he was having trouble. His wife said they ate dinner, everything was good. She went to bed, and he shot himself in their living room. No note, nothing. Just wish he knew how loved he was - no one ever had a bad word to say about him. Just goes to show, you never know what demons a person is battling. Sorry for such a downer of a post. Damn. Sorry man.
March 10, 20232 yr I had a really good friend go the same route. I talked to somebody who went to counseling when her brother took his life. The councilor told her there isn't anything you can do once they decide that's what they want to do. She said "Once they are in the mode, there isn't anything anyone can do." Apparently they set a date, usually a day that has some kind of significance, and act normal right up until the end. Sorry for your loss.
March 18, 20232 yr 16 hours ago, TV Guy said: Purdue. 🤣 Someone I work with was a tad to confident in them on our morning call on Friday
March 18, 20232 yr 2 hours ago, paco said: Someone I work with was a tad to confident in them on our morning call on Friday Maybe they like frozen chicken
March 26, 20232 yr That looks like a really tasty steak sandwich. My critiques to call it a cheesesteak -I think your bread looks too hard on the outside. Should be crusty but that looks a little too thick of a consistency almost like a ciabatta. You need a thin crusty later with a softer more airy inside. -And you need to get your steak sliced a little bit thinner, and more finely chopped. That's just nitpicking though. Id eat that sandwich every day. Very nice. Some people who love being wrong would suggest ketchup.
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